Every one of us is on a road to somewhere. Most of us are confident that somewhere will be an improvement to where we are now because we are taking steps to get there. Some of us however are frozen or held back by fear and the only cure for fear is action.
That’s easy for me to say, right?
I hear you, I know it is easy to say. I also know overcoming fear can be a difficult, frustrating and drawn out process. I am no stranger to fear, though deep down I know I’m capable of anything something (fear) holds me back in a number of situations. Attempting to identify your fear trigger points can start you on the journey to overcoming your fears.
You want success don’t you? Yes, of course you do. Well then let’s take a look at some fear inducing circumstances and some action steps for resolving them.
- Appearance – Feeling embarrassed or self conscious because of your appearance can be enough to hold people back by not speaking up, keeping to yourself or as a contributing factor to shyness. Action Step: Look at ways you can improve how you feel about yourself for example begin an exercise program, even walking can lift your spirits, go to the hairdresser, a new hairstyle can make a big difference, give yourself a facial, any improvement you can make to your grooming is bound to make you feel better. Also remember a lot of our negative feelings, about our appearance, we have created so try some positive thoughts about yourself.
- Fear of what you can’t control – Control over ourselves our action and behaviour is really the only kind of control we should be concerned with. Action Step: I taught the following prayer to my son when he was young as he often worried about many things and was prone to whinging and stressed behaviour, now he is any adult and a very calm and peaceful young man.
God give me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can and the Wisdom to know the difference.
Try it, it can’t hurt.
- Fear of what others may say or think – People do talk, but it is true they usually find more time to talk about themselves. Those that talk about others in a negative way are usually doing so to make themselves feel better. Action Step: Make sure you are doing what is right. Great achievers have been critisised the world over, thankfully they didn’t let that stop them. If you have goals you want to achieve find out what you need to do to achieve them, make a plan, and follow it.
- Fear of failure – This could be one of the biggest. We really don’t know what we can do without first trying. We may not win the race, we may not become a millionaire, we may not achieve everything we want in life. As long as we ran the race, or made some money, or achieved some of what we wanted, as long as we gave our best we have not failed. Solution Step: Use your fear to drive you, you have not failed as long as you are still working on it. People are capable of overcoming the most enormous obstacles, if it’s what you want, if it will benefit others, if you have considered it carefully then don’t give up.
Have an Amazing Day
Teresa and the Team at
